Week 74 - "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life” - Jean Luc Picard
It’s funny how life has a way of throwing things at you when you least expect it. You could be on top of the world, at your best moment, and get hit with a rock that sends you all the way back to what feels like ground zero.
And sometimes, it’s not even your fault.
Isn’t that depressing?
To know that you could do everything right, but still get the short end of the stick honestly makes it feel like there’s no point in even trying.
Although I’ve always preached that you should/can always be ready for things like this to happen, I’ve realized it’s much easier said than done.
So what do you do? What do you do knowing that anything or anyone you do or don’t know could throw a wrench in all your plans?
Nothing.
That’s really it.
There’s absolutely nothing you can do about it. You can prepare or anticipate yourself for something that may or may not happen, but even then, the reality is often a lot worse than what you think it might be.
For example, if you’re in a relationship that ends abruptly, it can feel extremely confusing. If you did everything right and still didn’t see the end coming, it can understandably feel like you overlooked something between the two of you, and now you’re paying the price. Or maybe it makes you think that relationships are inherently volatile and that you should always have one foot in and one out, just in case things don’t work out.
And as much as it feels completely correct to feel that way, I still think that’s wrong. Just because one person or event caught you off guard and made you reconsider what you were doing, I truly believe it’s vital to continue putting your whole self into the things that matter to you. You can’t just live in fear of the next unexpected blow to your life.
Yes, things might go wrong again, and yes, it’ll still feel like you’re doing the wrong thing. But what’s the alternative? To never fully commit, to always hold back?
Similarly, in other aspects of life, whether it's your career, friendships, or personal projects, give them your all. The potential for failure is always there, but so is the potential for immense success and fulfillment.
So, instead of focusing on what might go wrong, focus on what could go right. After all, even if the uncertainty in life makes things feel scary, it’s also what gives our lives so much potential.
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